Me and Mr. Darcy

The Whole

The Whole

By Monique Gajadhar

Article #001

The Whole

A piece of the big magical puzzle.
To send a letter is a good way to go somewhere without moving anything but your heart
Phyllis Theroux

Dear friend,

In my mind I am friends with the whole world. With you, whom I have never met, with a few imaginary ones that continue to help me through a number of my lesser moments, with some that are now…well, already dead, and with numerous ‘unreachable’ celeb acquaintances that have become my newest ‘bestest’ friends. This might sound pitiful but just hear me out, you will soon understand.

I am, as you probably gathered by now, a hopeful romantic and thrive on everything drool. Because of this incessant need for fuzzy feelings and an incredible urge to express myself in affectionate ways, I decided a few months back to extend my tokens to those I take for granted, never really thank or ignore altogether, and call this project ‘THE WHOLE’.

I have started writing letters  of gratitude to people that play an important but often invisible and quiet role in my life. These individuals may not even know who I am but they have contributed to my life in such profoundly positive ways, that I decided I had to convey a heartfelt thank you and explain why I think of them with immense gratefulness. You see, I haven’t been as grateful as I probably could and should have been.

I noticed one day that whenever I was attentive or aware of the people and the things around me, a stream of reciprocal events and conditions came my way. It was like magic.

But here’s the thing. What I also found out was that the opposite is true as well, and I can tell you now, that by studying myself and others for over a decade now, and having went through some of my greatest challenges yet, I learned that there is a definite cause to every effect. There’s no dodging this fact.

I have started writing letters of gratitude to people that play an important but often invisible and quiet role in my life.

Because I wasn’t appreciative enough, of my life and those in it, my moods fluctuated anywhere from miserable to elated and everything in between. The few times that I did feel ecstatic lasted only for a short while and the momentum quickly faded away. Now why was that, I asked myself? Why can’t I feel like this all the time? What is it that prevents me from having everything? Why can’t things go right for me for a change? What was the common thread that connected all these unsatisfying conditions and feelings in my world and held me back? Well…here’s what I learned. It wasn’t the world. It was my own lazy head.

It was me. Because I couldn’t see all that I already had, I placed myself in a position out of where tedium and monotony was the only perspective. I wanted to get out of this ongoing rut and I did. All of a sudden it hit me and things started to make sense. I had my legs. Yay! They weren’t super tall but who cares? I. CAN. WALK.

I’m not listed on FHM’s ‘most beautiful women in the world-list’ but I consider myself pretty cute. Heck yeah! I have a job. I have my health. I have friends and family I actually get along with…eeuhm, why was I so miserable again? 

So, when I finally yanked myself out of my pity pool my life started to change. Teeny tiny changes that have resulted in a life of complete bliss.

Now why was that, I asked myself? Why can’t I feel like this all the time? What is it that prevents me from having everything? Why can’t things go right for me for a change?

I cannot begin to tell you how wonderfully powerful this journey has been for me. I’m not dead yet, so knowing that I get to experience even more of this fills me with so much energy, I think I can actually light up my own dang self!

So, my warmheartedness for every person and event has led me to this moment. To be able to see and understand that we are all connected and part of a magnificent unity humbles me over and over again.

I am going to thank You  and you a letter at a time and hope that you will feel appreciated and valued for who you are and what you do. The first letter of my life’s project I wrote to my Maker. To thank Him for the blessed life of me and my family. The second one you will have to watch out for. Every month I will post a letter on the blog in which someone is acknowledged and appreciated for who they are.

I want to share this with you because I know that reading about love and joy will rub off. You WILL feel it and we WILL. So keep an eye out for my tokens because I can promise that it will make you feel good. Really really good. I do not pretend to change entire worlds with my words or be any kind of life altering trigger but if I can bring joy to someone’s life, even if it is for the few minutes that it takes to read what I write, I will have done what I am here for.

Recap. I am here to share my love for the world and my gift for writing and telling stories with people, in the hope of enriching their lives with nuggets of happiness. As small as they might be, I hope that it will bring at least a moment of joy to their hearts and put a smile on their beautiful faces.

Sending you buckets full of love all the way from here to wherever you are .



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Me and Mr. Darcy


Me and Mr. Darcy

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